Quite a lovely, 14 year old girl isn’t she?
(She would be lovelier without those freckles though, don’t ya think? But at least her tattooed eyeliner, eyebrows and lip liner makes her otherwise shallow features stand out).
“I am happy. I just look a lot better, Sophie says.
“I like it now that it is always there and I don’t need to bother with it every morning.”
“I think she is old enough to be making these decisions with support from me. It wasn’t something we looked into lightly. When you say she has had her make-up tattooed on it sounds really shocking. But actually it is done very subtly,” she said. “It’s done to enhance her features, it’s not done to change her, to make her look like somebody else. It’s not done to change the way she looks.”
Really? And removing her freckles is going to do what exactly?
The media is crying foul on this because “the danger is that a growing climate of sexualization encourages a view of girls as sex objects,” according to a spokeswoman for the Children’s Charity NSPCC said.
I get this, but first and foremost this is an issue of self esteem.
Girls are being made to feel they should “enhance” themselves physically at younger, and younger ages. What’s next — breast implants before their breast even start growing??! Toddlers strutting around in high heels?
“All children should be valued for their abilities and talent. They should be free to grow up as children. Sadly, we have reached a point where many children get distressed because they think they don’t look good. For some vulnerable children, this can even lead to mental health problems.”
If you have a mother, like this obviously deranged one, avoid her advice at all costs. SHE is the one with low self esteem, and she is trying to make up for it through you. Don’t allow your mother’s issues become YOUR issues –whether is about weight, looks, height, style, whatever.
A healthy, loving mom should encourage you to dress how you want to dress, explore what you want to explore, and talk to you point blank about societies sick obsession with beauty.
If she doesn’t, that’s what I am here for.
Don’t believe the hype.
PS The BBC news article refers to Sophie’s two “illegal” body tattoos. For the record, I support this aspect of self expression. Sure, 14 is young, but I believe that forms of personal self expression such as this is one of the best ways to grow self esteem…you should try it — NOW.
How are you expressing yourself today?
Do you take risks with your clothes — wearing styles that are outside the norm, painting a streak in your hair, or plastering pins on your backpack that speak your mind? What about talking about things that are not “cool,” like reading, orchestra, or drama club? BE YOU BABY!
PSS Today, I have a henna tattoo on my wrist to go with my Buddha bracelet, black nail polish, and peace sign toe ring. The pin on my backpack says “I’ll have Cafe-Mocha Vodka-Marijuana Latte to go, please.”