Love this video. Enjoy your weekend.
There’s a lot of things I think of but I don’t post because I always try to add an image, add links, etc., etc. etc. Problem is that takes time, which I don’t have a lot of , and I miss this blog. So, you’re going to get more writing, and less fancy schmancy stuff and we will see how that goes. Cool?
Todays topic: What to do when your mother is on a diet.
Here’s the scenario; your mom comes home from her coffee clutch all excited about joining Weight Watchers. She is on a mission to lose 30 pounds, she’s pumped, and then she just happens to mention you could afford to lose some weight too.
Dead silence.
Your mind races about thinking; “I am happy with how I look (I am quite sexy actually) why doesn’t mom think so? If she thinks she is fat, well, I have her body, so I must be fat. She’s right. What have I been thinking. I am a fat loser…….”
Stop right there. Your mom’s weight issue, is not your weight issue.
Say it again, and say it out loud until you believe it. I see soooooo much of this going on today and its scary. Moms, Grandmas, Aunts, all sitting around fat chatting, talking about diets, all the while their daughters are sitting there listening intently, thinking;“I am one of them. I am fat too. I have to start a diet because they are and if I don’t they are going to tell me to. Plus Grandma is kind of big, if I don’t start now that is how I will look.”
Seeing that this is a blog focused on eating disorders, I am going to assume the majority of you out there don’t have the greatest body image. I am going to assume that somewhere, sometime, you started being down on yourself and your body, and you started spiraling down that hellish ED hole.
Please tell me how it happened?
Please tell me why it happened?
Did your mom (or dad) have anything to do with your body image?
Statistics show that mothers are the #1 influence on their daughters body image. Number 1 ; more influential than boyfriends, peers, anyone. So why do some moms not get it?
From my 40 year old mom perspective, its because they never learned to love themselves. They never had a role model to teach them about positive body image. Maybe they did feel great at one time, but with age, the lumps and bumps took over and it was hard to accept.
But regardless, it is your mom’s (and dad’s) responsibility to teach you how to have a positive attitude, love who you are, what you are, and how you look. If they aren’t doing that –worse yet, if they are actually telling you — you suck, you’re a loser, you are not worthy… I am here to say you have a right to find different role models.
You do. Look around and find one — maybe a teacher, maybe a cousin, maybe a friend’s mom. Find one, and find her quick — before your own mother sinks your self esteem.
Gotta run, headed to a meeting for girls and their moms about — self esteem and body image.
Love,
mamaV
WARNING: THIS POST ABOUT TRIGGER MAY BE A TRIGGER.
SITE STILL UNDER CONSTRUCTION…YOU MAY SEE WACKED OUT PAGES
A poster of a second impossibly thin Ralph Lauren model has emerged in Sydney, landing the exclusive fashion house in more hot water.
The blogging website Photoshop Disasters posted an image today of an unknown model with a tiny waist posing in a Ralph Lauren advertisement.
Former Ralph Lauren model Flippa Hamilton dumped for being too fat. Fake Flippa left, Real Flippa right
UPDATE: 10/15 Another incriminating photo exposes Laurens idiocy –more here
Not such a Happy 70th Birthday for you today, huh Ralph-ie?
Earlier this week, Lauren’s freaky-science-fiction like ad campaign featuring an oddly altered image of model Flippa Hamilton surfaced. BoingBoing said it best stating Hamilton’s “head is bigger than her pelvis (dude).”
Now the model herself has come forward to say she was fired for being “too fat.”
Howdy! A little blog reconstruction going on here so don’t freak. I’ll be working on a new look and feel so you’ll see continual changes, but in the meantime you’ll see my old header and navigation.

Fall 2006 First header image, what a youngster!
OPEN FORUM!
In the meantime, how about we bring back the open forum? For those of you who are new, the open forum was just an open post where we all chatted about whatever, whenever, and we ended up making a lot of friends. No rules, just talk – go here to check it out.
Hi Gang! Here’s a few links to a few of the discussions I have been leading at WeAreTheRealDeal (don’t worry, I won’t neglect mamaVISION forever—I just need a solid hiatus to get me back on fire!)
I miss you all!
mV
PS I got an email to do an interview for BBC, could be fun if I don’t have to get up at 3am!! I’ll keep you posted.
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“Dude, her head is bigger than her pelvis.”
Why yes it is…check out Fashion Plate Ralph Lauren is attempting to sue BoingBoing for….give me a break Ralphie, hang it up will ya?! More here
Beauty is not about how skinny you can be.
mamaV needs a breather! I am on hiatus for a few weeks…..in the meantime visit We Are The Real Deal, my collective blog from body image activists.