We live in an insanely eating disordered society.

A society that is so totally out of control that we have 9 year old girls dieting, models dropping dead from anorexia, and fat people being treated as if they are a piece of crap. Yet, the world keeps spinning, brands keep pumping out the B.S and we keep on sucking it up as fast as they create it.

Our fear of fat drives young women to choose death over fat.

Losing their parents over fat.

Even cancer over fat.

Is that ok with you?

You’ve got to stand for something.

This is all too much for me. I am not one to sit around watching this madness unfold and act like this is ok. So – I fire off my blog posts and hope it matters. Maybe my thoughts change a few attitudes here and there, makes a few women think before they criticize another, or possibly stops you from weighing in on your worthiness today. And maybe, just maybe, a few lives lives are changed in the process.

At least I would like to believe so.

What I care about;

Children and how they are impacted by our demented media and fashion industry.

Women who are wasting their lives hating themselves and their bodies for absolutely no reason.

Mothers that are so sucked into body hate that they knowingly impact their children but do not know what to do about it.

Men and fathers who feel lost when it comes to helping their wives and children with self esteem and positive body image.

Anyone who feels degraded in a society where we discriminate based on weight and we have allowed our fear of fat to completely control our universe.

What I write about:

I write about the what I believe are the culprit(s) –

Media, fashion, celebrity culture, plastic surgery, the diet industry, the cosmetic industry and everything else in between. If I knock some sense into a few people here and there, I’m happy.

“Pro” anorexia — the lifestyle as they say. The day I heard of this fancy little trend, I flipped. How can we possibly have children saying that anorexia is a lifestyle to be achieved, honored and respected?? Google the word “thinspiration” for me…spend 10 minutes reading the content you find and you’ll get it.

Why I blog:

To influence change, a different line of thought; hopefully help you think different when you page through a fairy-tale fashion magazine.

To be a voice of reason for our brainwashed young women and girls (thank you for all the emails of support telling me this matters – keep ’em coming, even I get down sometimes and need a boost!)

To debate. I love a good debate, differing points of view…we can all learn something, including myself. I always read your comments and stay in the conversation after I post (I’ve always hated that when a blogger posts and then you never hear from them again on the thread of comments – I like to be part of the discussion – and it gives me a chance to admit when I am wrong!)

And I have always promised myself that if the day comes where I am no longer passionate about these topics – I’ll quit, cold turkey.

Why it matters:

One of the coolest things about blogging is it brings together individuals from various backgrounds and experiences, to discuss topics sometimes civilly and other times not so nice. Without the community of people that come together to read, this blog is nothing, its just a big pile of me babbling, so I thank you for reading and responding (stop lurking already and post your comments already!)

Your life is now.


8 Responses to MISSION

  1. Salome says:


    I want to thank you for what you’re doing with this blog. I came across it in my internet wanderings–looking for relevent things to post on our Turn Me Red Society facebook page. We promote women loving one another, lifting one another up, reaching out and finding solidarity within each other–as opposed to ripping one another to shreds. Along with all of that, of course, comes self-assurance and love of ones inward AND outward self. Come by and check it out if you’d like.

    Again, what you’re doing here is great. Thank you. I wish I’d seen it in my adolescent years…

    • mamav says:

      Hi! Thanks for reaching out! I checked out your FB page, love your mission.

      Hope you don’t mind but I am posting it on my other blog Wearetherealdeal.com — let me know if you ever want to guest post here or there.

  2. RobinMarie says:

    i’m so glad i came upon your site, as a mother of four (13,13,10,5) and recovering from a 15 year struggle with an eating disorder it is so comforting to read what you have wrote…..i know i’m not alone. the thought of going out terrifies me, from the stretched skin on my stomach that won’t go anywhere unless i have a tummy tuck, its skin, all it is but i can’t even wear jeans comfortably. i tear up even at the thought of going out with friends……society needs to change

  3. Becky Henry says:

    Thank you so much for this work you are doing. I am passionate about networking with people who want to make eating disorders history. I have tons more to say but need to get back to my work of making this happen.
    Becky Henry
    Hope Network, Inc.

  4. Patricia says:

    This is absolutely wonderful. I stumbled upon this blog while browsing and I am so glad that I found it! You’re amazing and the work you’re doing is great! I truly appreciate it. I have been working on my own blog http://www.beutifulmagazine.com – which sends a similar message. We’ve just got to keep fighting this!

    • mamaV says:

      Great to meet you, and I love your blog! Just signed up for your newsletter, and I’m going to post about you shortly. Raisins is spot on.

  5. Brittnie says:

    What a great site and mission. Hats off to you! For someone who has lived the life of an ED I say thank you! YOU are making a difference… one blog post at a time.

  6. Johanna says:

    I don’t like this page, it simplifies things too much. It’s not about looking like models. Noone begins to starve herself just because she sees a skinny model on TV. If she does, then something is already wrong with her. Not to mention that it’s definitely a consumers society we live in, what I see is that everything is about consumption, consumption long above the real needs, exploiting and destroying this planet (which is so much more beautiful than any human being can be). Imho the encouragement for even more consompution is a lot more disgusting (and spreads more agressively) than the pro-ana bullshit. And being overweight is also unheathy and unnatural, if pro-ana should be banned, promoting being overweight should be, too. By the way, there are a lot of girls who are naturally thin or have less appetite, and never could look like “a real woman” (or what the hell you call them).
    Just a few more things. Anorexia existed long before the media, and in every part of the world, independently from each other (just think about the fasting saints or monks, or Buddha, Jesus…). It even exists in animals who are too depressed to eat. Dogs don’t want to fit in their size 0 wedding dress, they don’t look in the mirror thinking they are fat, but anorexia exists in dogs (and kills them), too. It’s not an illness, it’s just a symptom of many different problems, but we get the same diagnosis and are usually treated the same way. Just like all the people who have high fever would be treated against the same illness.
    This page (and it’s not the only) makes it seem that it’s all about beauty. And recovery too, is only about the looks: just accept the way you look, you are beautiful, everybody is beautiful (except skinny people, because they are disgusting) and everything is OK. Plus-size model campaigns also contrentrate only on the looks, again, it’s all about these boring, annoying, shallow things, and doesn’t show any real worth in life. I’ve never cared about being beautiful (if something, I wanted my anorexia to make me ugly and shocking), and it annoys me so much that everybody thinks anorexia stems from vanity. No. Most of the times, anorexia is about a burden in your soul – bad memories, self-hatred, bereavement, remorse, loneliness, so much else – that you want to lose through your flesh. It’s the materialization of the problems inside you can’t handle any other way. That burden in your mind is what you feel as fat, this is what you want to lose that through starvation. Of course, like the banning of pro-ana pages, it’s not the right solution of the problem, but gives the illusion that it is.
    (By the way, pro-ana should be left alone, it’s just one of the many strange subcultures like body modification, gaming, base jumping, etc. If you don’t want to be a part of it, walk away, if you can’t, don’t blame them. You choose. And keep it in mind: a lot of pro-ana girls don’t even have an eating disorder, if they knew what it’s really like, there wouldn’t be this much of these pages. If you see a pro-ana page that glorifies emaciation, it’s probably made by a brainwashed teenage girl who weighs twice as much as you.
    Sorry for grammar mistakes, English is not my native language. And thank you for reading)

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