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Miley takes using your sexuality to a whole new level at VMAs

26 Aug

Miley_Cyrus_No_RespectI felt incredibly embarrassed for Miley Cyrus’ at last nights MTV VMAs. So much so that I don’t even want to go back and look at it again. Her foam fingered antics are forever slapped all over the web, never to be erased, even as she really grows up, has a family, children, and maybe someday attempts to take herself seriously as a woman. 

My problem with a performance like that is it has nothing to do with talent. So why, when a woman actually has talent, does she turn to her sexuality by default? Is it some sort of “right of passage” that I completely missed?

I get it… her song “we can’t stop” is all about partying, doing what you want with your own body, yada, yada yada (the song is actually a catchy one too but the video isn’t much better). My question is:

WHY do you want to do THAT with your own body?

At 16, a model in Paris, I was a complete and total prude. A proud one at that. My agent constantly sent me to castings for topless jobs, even though I told the entire agency point blank I wouldn’t do it. C’mon, its France for goodness sake, take it off girl, they said. C’mon, its my body and I’ll do what I want to, I said, ready to punch them in the face every single time I Embarrassed Audience Miley Cyrus 2013 VMAswas barraged with pressure to just loosen up already.

I had the same response when they wanted me to get a boob job.

Same response when all the old pervs wanted to date me.

Same response when my Swedish roommates happily whipped off their tops, at parties no less, leaving me appalled at their lack of respect for themselves.

Looking back, I was a dang smart teenager. All I can say is I had this value system instilled in me that came naturally. It’s not like my parents pounded it into my head to behave while in Europe, I mean, when you let your kid fly at that age, you’ve got to have some sort of confidence they have a good head on their shoulders. The sad reality is I was the only one is my group of model friends that didn’t take their clothes off in search of success. Some were tricked into it,  but still, they did it, and now they live with the consequences of it.  And make no mistake, there are consequences. I think about how I would feel if I was ashamed of my behavior during those modeling years, how would it impact my life today as a mom, business owner, wife. I’ll never know, since I am filled with pride about my decisions during those years.

If what Miley Cyrus did at the VMA’s is now considered “talent,” I guess I am still a prude. I consider her performance a pure shame, just wasted talent and ability to truly be someone.

All she is now is a Maxim hottie, with a super long tongue.  Her embarrassed friends and family are probably trying to tell her to scale it waayyy back, and she remains completely clueless as to the disaster she is at this moment.

So, if you watched last nights how, and just felt awesome about it, tell me why. If you now have more respect for Miley than you did before, let it fly.

Because, man, I just don’t get it.


Real size mannequins proves you are normal.

27 Mar

Real Sized Female ManniquinA Swedish department store has had the gall to display a real sized female mannequin, and already the Today show is reporting controversy on the appropriateness of this image.

At left we have the “regular” sized mannequin, at left is the supposed “plus sized”  version. My take is the plus sized version is going to make many of you reading this post feel FAT because your body is (yikes) bigger that that one!

No worries, you are in the same category at the famed, admired and lusted after Kim K, J. Lo., Christina Aguilera, Pink — so here is some pics for inspiration to keep being YOU.

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Feeding Tubes: There not just for anorexics anymore!*

16 Apr

Looking to loose weight before the big day? A feeding tube – of course!

Brides Tube Feeding to lose weight

Just tell ole’ doc you want the K-E diet trick, and in the tube goes, and off come the pounds.

I’ve said since day one that our society is creating eating disorders, I am not sure there is another such blatant example of proof.  The fact that a woman would even dream this up is totally pathetic, and so ignorant it pains me. The lack of empathy and understanding for what a “real” ED is unreal. Further, the press is so coy in their reporting of such tragedies tangling up the headlines stating woman are “resorting” to this treatment – when in actuality if there weren’t such nutcase doctors collaborating on the ideas there would be no story to report on. And yes, by my writing about it, more women are going to do it.

In this case, its some dude named Dr. Di Pietro is proud to placing his name on the procedure. Here’s what the genius has to say according to the New York Times (who dubbed this story “The Hunger Games”);

“At first I decided not to do it for people who just want to lose a few pounds,” Dr. Di Pietro said. “But then I thought, why should I say 5 or 10 pounds are not enough? People want to be perfect.”

What exactly IS perfect Dr. P? Do you determine this or does your patient? Have you ever met a woman who actually reached her imaginary perfection? How about a woman who dropped over on you because you gave her such an unnecessary, vain, treatment? It’s only a matter of time as far as I am concerned.

Here’s Dr. P’s very strict requirements to be eligible for tube feeding pre-wedding:

1) Cough up $1,500 cash for the 10 day treatment. For this he does includes a screening and the equipment (I wonder what the screening is? Fog a mirror and have a detectable heartbeat?)

2) Feel confident enough to wear the tube in public.

“People think I’m sick, I’m dying,” said Ms. Schnaider, a watch wholesaler in Miami. She refrained from going into her daughters’ school. “The children, they would be scared,” she said.


How intuitive of you Ms Schnaider. I am sure your daughter will have no ill effects seeing her mother prance around with a feeding tube while jumping on the scale each morning in delight as another pound falls off your already trim frame (this poor, innocent, child is basically scarred for life, can you even imagine a child seeing their parent in this “chosen” condition).

See Ms. Schnaider in this video and you’ll see the size and shape of her body that just had to be 10 pounds lighter for her wedding day.

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The fact that we make a complete and total joke out of eating disorders is unacceptable, and in this case, what about individuals that have true health conditions that require them to be feed by tube? What are we saying to them — “Wow, that looks fun! Great way to loose weight huh!” Haven’t these people suffered enough?

We are a sick, sick country. And personally, I am so damn sick of it.



*The term “anorexic” is one utilized by the general public therefore I have used it in the headline for it to be understood. The correct terminology is “anorectic”

Kate and Pippa: The New Thinspiration

26 Jul

Kate Middleton and Pippa ThinspirationSaw this one coming a mile away. Particularly since Kate, The Dutchess of Cambridge, seems to be shrinking by the day (let’s hope its stress).  Turns our the Pro-anas are all over the sisters, glomming on to them as their fresh new “thinspo” material (at least that is what the media is shrieking).

How grand.

Odd thing is I searched for 15 minutes before writing this post for a video, proana site, or thinspo crap channel and I could not find ONE thing stated, noted, or expressed about Kate and Pippa.

So is this one hype or the typical situation of the media planting seeds for our dear proana community to glom on to? Either way, does it even matter at this point? Does anyone even care that there are MILLIONS of girls out there touting “Anorexia as a lifestyle.”

I found that answer many, many years ago – five to be exact, and the answer is a big fat NO. This culture is instead very interested in sensationalizing the whole thing, or of course banding together to “SHUT THE PRO ANA SITES DOWN.” Oh, yeah, that’s gonna do it. It takes what…five minutes to put up a new site or Facebook page?

We need to face this head on. We need to face the fact that every woman on the planet would like to be as thin as Kate and Pippa. Most actually spend the vast majority of their time longing to look like a waif. This is nothing new, and its no where near getting better, so what to do?

For me, I just need to rant about it a bit and get it out of my system, then I can move on with my day. How about you?



Casey Anthony’s Incest “Excuse”

5 Jul

Casey Anthony Mug Shot _Not Guilty VerdictJust watched the video of Casey Anthony’s response to her Not Guilty verdict. Then I jumped over to FB and Twitter trends to see if my opinion was in the majority — that’s definitely a no. From what I have seen, most think Casey should have been found guilty as sin.

Here’s the deal for me;


George, Mr. Tan Playboy molester father is a scumbag beyond belief. When the news came out that Casey “claimed” she was sexually abused by her father, I wasn’t shocked. Were you?

I wasn’t even shocked by the fact that the majority of people don’t even believe her story.  It’s typical. Everyone wants to be known as a child of incest you know? I am sure Casey was really proud to admit this to the whole f-ing planet.

Listen, I don’t care how many lies you tell, spitting out the sexual molestation by the hand of your father one is not one that rolls off the tongue, even out of total and complete desperation. Further, Casey’s expression when her Father took the stand to deny he molested her was one that Casey had never shown before. To me that was a slam dunk she was telling the truth.

After the jump: video and Incest Makes You Nuts commentary


I love this girl.

11 May

Andre’a sent me this video and asked me to post it. After watching it, it is my pleasure to post it. I post this with a message of hope and prayer to all of you reading my blog.

I wish for you happiness, self confidence, and freedom from self hatred.

I wish for you glimpses of hope in your daily life that give you the energy to believe a better life awaits you.

I wish for you adults that have their heads screwed on straight, capable of guiding you down a path of self confidence and respect for your body.

I wish for you friends that surround you, encourage you, and never judge you.

Even if my wishes do not come true, you will make it. You are going to make it. This ED hell is going to pass, and you are going to live the life you were meant to. As horrific as all of this is, I truly believe it is happening for a reason. That reason alludes you now, but someday it will be clear.

As clear as it became to me when I started writing this blog 20 years after my struggles had past. The day I wrote my first post was the day I understood why I suffered so much to get to this place.





Year in Review: Best in Eating Disorders 2010

31 Dec

Thanks to Heidi Dalzell of Philadelphia Examiner for this informative list! We are making progress!

To often the news contains stories that glorify eating disorders or involve the latest celeb struggling with anorexia or bulimia. But 2010 contained many positive stories about eating disorders —successes, advocacy and advancements in the field — both in the Philadelphia area and beyond. Here is a recap of those stories, in chronological order:

1. Local group advocates for eating disorders. A Chance to Heal based in Montgomery County, Pa. continues its efforts in advocacy and prevention. Key among these are helping Senator Daylin Leach promote Pa. Bill 1138, which, if passed, would extend insurance coverage for the treatment of eating disorders in Pennsylvania.


Katy Perry, Firework: What does this vid do for you?

17 Dec

I caught this video on whim, and loved it! Katy Perry has been iffy to me in terms of appropriateness (cupcakes as boobs…..really?)

But the theme for Firework is so inspiring;

4 young adults with different issues/insecurities that are holding them back from being themselves;

An girl who feels overweight not swimming at a party.

A child with cancer, bald from chemo stuck in the hospital.

Kids in a household with fighting parents.

Gay young male wanting to come out.

Check it out and tell me what you think. Love, mv

Let’s remove your freckles honey, you would be so much cuter!

27 Aug

Meet Sophie Watson.

Quite a lovely, 14 year old girl isn’t she?

(She would be lovelier without those freckles though, don’t ya think? But at least her tattooed eyeliner, eyebrows and lip liner makes her otherwise shallow features stand out).

“I am happy. I just look a lot better, Sophie says.

“I like it now that it is always there and I don’t need to bother with it every morning.”

Her mother, a demented beauty therapist (that’s a new one), said she gave permission for the make-up treatment, according to BBC News.


And we wonder why girls feel like sexual objects…..

5 Aug

Here is a lovely video showing a dance troupe of 7 YEAR OLD GIRLS strutting around on stage to Beyonce’s “Single Lady’s” tune.  They not only imitate Beyonce’s hip thrusts and humping actions, they’ve got the full on lip pout come and get me look.

A) Who picked the song “Single Lady’s” for these children?

B) The outfits. Someone had to MAKE those outfits since to my knowledge Victoria Secret is not (yet) selling size 8 for girls.

C) The dance. These kids are great, you can see it when they actually twirl and jump, so why the need to turn what should have been a once in a lifetime opportunity into a fiasco should haunt them their whole lives.

D) Will the parents of these darlings please step forward and tell us what in gods name do you think you are teaching your daughter besides 1) I am a sex object 2) I am a sex object 3) I am a sex object.


Sign This Petition So Our Kids Don’t Have To Eat Total Crap In School

3 May

It takes two seconds, please, please, please!

Check out the video — I STAR IN IT!! (well, kinda). I am in it for about 1 second in the beginning, but then I am the very last person shown…I discovered this totally randomly. :)

REAL Magazine — gotta get it

11 Mar

I’ve been reading REAL magazine since they started publishing, and I’ve got to say these girls have something totally unique (and there artwork rules!)

The About Us Page describes REAL as;

REAL is a heart beat, a love letter, a wink, a kiss, a smile, a tear, a hug. REAL is two hands holding, a single idea, a dream, a fire, a sea, a crazy pirate, a colour, a song, a season. Being real can’t be written in words, there’s no manual on how to be real, because we are all real, if we exist we are real.

REAL is written by young women from across the world. It was created to inspire you to do amazing and outrageous things. We aim to challenge you to think outside the box and consider want being real is to you.

Join them! I promise you will start to think a bit differently about yourself, and the world around you.



Gemma Ward Quits Modeling, called "Roll Model"

8 Nov


Gemma Ward today -- normal is not cutting it in fashion, she is ready for "plus sized" modeling according to Bryan Boy

Top Fashion Model Gemma Ward has had it — she has called it quits after years of harrassment about her weight Perhaps the final straw was being called a ”Roll Model” by the Sunday Telegraph, read more here (first person to find the roll wins!)

It’s called PUBERTY people.

Celebrating her 22nd birthday in New York last week, Ward was photographed alongside close friend and Sports Illustrated swimwear model, Jessica Gomes. Ward, who was romantically linked to Heath Ledger, disappeared from the fashion industry after his death in January 2008, The Sunday Telegraph reports.

Last week, she was snapped wearing a leopard-print jacket, shorts and biker boots - looking the very picture of a healthy young woman (above).  But the photographs were quickly posted by international fashion blogger Bryan Boy. Reader comments varied from overwhelming support to vicious attacks on her new real shape, with the blogger boy himself saying she could now give “Crystal Renn a run for her money.”


Stupid Girls – which are you?

6 Nov

Love this video. Enjoy your weekend.


So, your mom is a dieter. Her issue – not yours.

23 Oct

There’s a lot of things I think of but I don’t post because I always try to add an image, add links, etc., etc. etc. Problem is that takes time, which I don’t have a lot of , and I miss this blog.  So, you’re going to get more writing, and less fancy schmancy stuff and we will see how that goes. Cool?

Todays topic: What to do when your mother is on a diet.

Here’s the scenario; your mom comes home from her coffee clutch all excited about joining Weight Watchers.  She is on a mission to lose 30 pounds, she’s pumped, and then she just happens to mention you could afford to lose some weight too.


mamaV's gone retro and more!

13 Oct

Howdy! A little blog reconstruction going on here so don’t freak. I’ll be working on a new look and feel so you’ll see continual changes, but in the meantime you’ll see my old header and navigation.


Fall 2006 First header image, what a youngster!

Picture 9OPEN FORUM!

In the meantime, how about we bring back the open forum? For those of you who are new, the open forum was just an open post where we all chatted about whatever, whenever, and we ended up making a lot of friends. No rules, just talk — go here to check it out.





Quick Links to hot stories!

7 Oct

Hi Gang! Here’s a few links to a few of the discussions I have been leading at WeAreTheRealDeal (don’t worry, I won’t neglect mamaVISION forever—I just need a solid hiatus to get me back on fire!)

I miss you all!

PS I got an email to do an interview for BBC, could be fun if I don’t have to get up at 3am!! I’ll keep you posted.

“Dude, her head is bigger than her pelvis.”

Why yes it is…check out Fashion Plate Ralph Lauren is attempting to sue BoingBoing for….give me a break Ralphie, hang it up will ya?! More here



Beauty is not about how skinny you can be.


You have never seen anything like this in a fashion magazine!

4 Sep

Holy crap —its real live cellulite in lights!

Crystal Renn is an extremely successful plus size model, who has been featured in every fashion rag out there, but the May 2009 of Harper’s Bazaar marked her first editorial in an Australian
high fashion magazine.

"What is truly spectacular about this editorial is that they have highlighted
Crystal Renn’s curves. Not skimmed, not flattered, but HIGHLIGHTED. It’s
freakin’ amazing," according to Corpulent

And there's more! According to Jezebel, there will be more normal women featured in the fall issues of Glamour magazine after the frenzy over this picture knocked the editors into reality.

As for the brainwashing of American women, Kate Harding said it best;

"People, I have written half a book about body image, including a chapter on
media bullshit, and countless posts about how Photoshop turns uncommonly
beautiful women into inhumanly beautiful women. Yet until I saw that picture, it
seriously never dawned on me that Crystal Renn might have lumpy thighs in real
life. That's how powerful the brainwashing is."

Something interesting to think about huh?
Enjoy your long weekend!

Just Buying Milk

29 Aug

This guest post is from TwistedSister,
a 23 year old woman from the UK. In this post, she relays her
perspective of an incident that occurred when she was 13 years old,
struggling with mental illness and anorexia.

Being looked up and down is never nice for anyone to endure, but
when you constantly have people doing it, it makes you wonder what is
so wrong with you that people feel the need to do it.

I have been constantly criticized on how I look and what I eat.
Mainly from family and females. Men have done it too but the main
judging has always come from females. Being judged by how I looked cut
me to pieces.

I remember one time that really got to me when I was out at the
shops to get milk for my mother. I walked around the shop looking for
what I needed, and I could feel someone looking at me. I always kept my
head down, ashamed of myself for even being in the public eye and I
tried to be as invisible as possible,  but I could feel someone looking
at me.

Without looking up I tried to find the person whose eyes were
burning into me, and then I saw her. She was probably in her late
teens, and she was just staring at me, I couldn’t understand why. She
then started whispering to her mate that was standing behind her and
started pointing at me. I heard them both laugh as they  kept pointing.
When the girl realized I could see her, she started shouting at me.

“What’s wrong with you?!” she yelled.

I kept silent.

“You look a mess. No one will ever fancy you. You will never get a boyfriend because you look like crap” she said.

She went on with the tirade —telling me my hair was dry and
horrible, that I was spotty and had fat legs. Before I could respond,
to this girl the cashier told me to come forward. As I walked to the
counter I could feel the eyes watching me as I moved, it felt like I
was in a freak show and the audience were watching the freak come to
the stage.

While I was paying the girls continued to laugh, then two boys
walked in and joined the queue with the girls. They asked what the
girls were laughing at and they told them they were laughing at me and
the state of me. They then joined in too, one boy shouted hey lard ass!
This made the rest of the group cackle like a bunch of bloody hyenas.

I paid as quickly as possible; I just wanted to get out of there and go home and hide.

“You don’t have a fat ass,” the cashier whispered to me as she
handed me my change (which I should have known seeing that I weighed 6
stone 3lbs). “They are just  jealous. Ignore them,” she said.

I nodded and ran crying my eyes out towards my house.

I hid in a bush for near on a hour, in tears, wondering what was so
wrong with me that people felt the need to keep hurting me, telling me
I wasn’t good enough and that I was fat. I believed them, I thought
that if so many people believed this was true well then it just must
be. I wiped my eyes and crawled out the bush, kept my head low and
walked home.

Soon as I got home mother started her usual rant about how long I
had been and what the hell was I thinking taking so long. I tried to

“What? Did ugliness stop you from walking? Or did your legs keep rubbing together so it got harder?” she preached.

That’s what I was asked.

I kept silent.

I put the milk on the counter along with the change and ran to my
bedroom where I shut the door and hid under my bed. My self esteem was
in shreds, I hated myself, I cut myself, on my legs, to see the blood
was for some reason refreshing to me, it made me feel a little better
but not enough.

So I then crawled out from the under the bed and stuck my fingers
down my throat trying to get every ounce of food, water, anything out
of my body. I wanted to be thin, I believed I was fat, I needed to
change to make people like me. I wasn’t good enough to have friends or
a family that loved me, so I needed to become thinner in order to be

I hated myself so much, I have never felt hatred like it and the voice in my head fueled this hate.

I was convinced my body was ugly and the only thought in my head was — I am never eating again.

I still get judged today, people stare at me as if I am a puzzle
that needs working out or a math question that confuses them. Girls and
boys alike shout obscene things at me as I walk along the street. I
still have low self-esteem, and I still feel bad about myself
sometimes. I am trying to tackle these things one at a time.

No one likes being judged, but at the end of the day, I am my own worst critic.

-Twisted Sister

Snapshot: What do you think?

19 Aug

The woman in this picture is causing a quite a stir. Why do you think that is? Where do you think this image appeared?

Hold on to your undies girls — her image appeared in the September issue of Glamour Magazine.

According to Editor-In-Chief Cindy Leive, the magazine was immediately bombarded with letters and emails shouting pure joy. Think about how monumental this really is — have you ever seen an image of a normal woman's body in a fashion magazine? I sure as hell haven't.

Here's the story behind the picture; Lizzi Miller is a plus sized model (size 12-14 or "normal" sized woman) chosen for an article about "feeling comfortable in your own skin," which she sure as hell does.

As for the letters, Lizzi's loving them;

"When I read them I got
teary-eyed. I've been that girl, flipping through magazines
trying to find just one person who looked a little bit like me. And
when I didn't find it I would start to think there's something wrong
with the way that I looked. When J. Lo and Beyoncé came out and were
making curves sexy, I started to accept myself more. It's funny, but
just seeing them look and feel sexy enabled me to do the same."

So now tell me, do you feel better or worse about yourself after viewing Lizzie's photo?

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