Best eating disorder blog

Man, I love P!nk, new vid F**kin’ Perfect

27 Jan

The first I heard of P!nk’s new video was from some parenting group freaking out about it (god forbid we should show reality to the children!!!!)

Ok, so here is what they have their undies in a bundle about; the video shows a young woman struggling from childhood to adulthood, engaging in various illegal activities, and then on to cutting, an eating disorder, and suicide attempt.

As a parent of a 10 year old girl, and a 7 year old boy, I fit the demographic of a mom that should be in a state of shock over this.  As you all know, this stuff is everyday life here at mamaV, so I am totally digging this.  This is how kids feel for god’s sake!

Do parents think ignoring this is going to make it not happen to their daughter or son?

The truth is if you are a parent that ignores the cuts on the arms and the bones sticking out of the collarbones (aka PLEASE HELP ME warning signs) you just missed your shot at saving your child’s life.

Let me know what you guys think, below is P!nk in her own words talking about why she did this video (didn’t know she was pregnant herself, I gotta get with the program). Click to next page to view video and Pink’s commentary

Pinks Page: I’m sure my newest video for “F**kin’ Perfect” will be much like some of my other videos, which basically means I expect it will ruffle some feathers.

My favorite books, art pieces, films, and music, always have something jarring about them. I want art to make me think.
In order to do that, it may piss me off, or make me uncomfortable. That promotes awareness and change, or at least some discussion.
That is my intention.
You can’t move mountains by whispering at them.

Cutting, and suicide, two very different symptoms of the same problem, are gaining on us. (the problem being; alienation and depression. the symptoms; cutting and suicide). I personally don’t know a single person who doesn’t know at least two of these victims personally. A lot of us have seen certain starlets showing off their latest scars on a red carpet somewhere, usually right before they head back to their favorite rehab.

Cutting, and suicide, two very different symptoms of the same problem, are gaining on us. (the problem being; alienation and depression. the symptoms; cutting and suicide). I personally don’t know a single person who doesn’t know at least two of these victims personally. A lot of us have seen certain starlets showing off their latest scars on a red carpet somewhere, usually right before they head back to their favorite rehab.

Its a problem, and its something we should talk about.
We can choose to ignore the problem, and therefore ignore this video, but that won’t make it go away.
I don’t support or encourage suicide or cutting.
I support the kids out there that feel so desperate/numb/powerless, that feel unseen and unheard, and can’t see another way.. I want them to know I’m aware. I have been there. I see them.
Sometimes that’s all it takes.

Making this video was a very emotional experience for me, as was writing this song. I have a life inside of me, and I want her or him to know that I will accept him or her with open and loving and welcoming arms. And though I will prepare this little munchkin for a sometimes cruel world, I will also equip this kid to see all the beauty in it as well. There are good people in this world that are open-minded, and loving. There are those that accept us with all of our flaws. I do that with my fans/friends, and I will do that with my child, whoever they decide to be.

If you or someone you know needs help, please visit TWLOHA

16 Responses to “Man, I love P!nk, new vid F**kin’ Perfect”

  1. Lissa 27. Jan, 2011 at 12:22 pm #

    Amazing post, and this really resonates with me not as someone who has experienced these things first-hand, but as a new mom who only wants her daughter to know that I’ll love her no matter what and that, in our eyes, she is, indeed, perfect.

  2. Ashley @ Nourishing the Soul 27. Jan, 2011 at 1:46 pm #

    I’m really happy to see that you posted Pink’s message about the video. It provides such valuable context and shows that, unlike many others in the industry, the video wasn’t created simply for shock value and sales. While I do think the video can be triggering to some of the most vulnerable among us who are struggling with strong urges to cut, I think that for the vast majority of us, it sends an incredible message of hope and reclaiming one’s power. Pink has really shown herself to be an amazing role model and someone who truly “gets it.”

  3. Ziska 28. Jan, 2011 at 8:58 am #

    Never been a big fan of her music, but I’ve always liked her attitude and how she really seems to understand struggles and real life. I liked this video a lot. I really saw it as an honest and realistic portrayal of things like EDs and cutting and the happy ending is a nice reminder that I can turn out ok. Thanks for posting this because I probably never would have seen it otherwise.

  4. Nats 28. Jan, 2011 at 9:03 am #

    Having been through a lot of the problems that Pink has portrayed in her video its nice to know that some people actually see what is going on around them, they are seeing the things that people choose to ignore or are too ignorant to even care.

    I have recently found out last week that I am pregnant and I will make damn sure that my child knows each and every day that I love them for who they are no matter what.

    Pink is doing an amazing job, as someone who is able to reach the demographic that need a helping hand sometimes she is amazing and I applaude her for what she is doing xx

  5. Christine 28. Jan, 2011 at 10:50 pm #

    I was at the gym on the treadmill when the video came on MTV. I probably looked like an idiot to the other woman in the cardio room because I started crying while watching it. It wasn’t something I’d want my kids to see yet (6 and 9) but I don’t have MTV on when they’re home. I loved the ending. And I’m glad I kept the intentional lines in my own skin in hidden places so I don’t have to explain them to my kids.

  6. mabel 30. Jan, 2011 at 9:00 pm #

    Gracias Mamavision for always showing your true side and speaking out when others seem careless about what WE go thru.I’m actually crying like a newborn after reading this post because it suits me so much and it’s such an ordeal.I’m glad there are people like you in this world.I’ll definitely keep on following your thoughts.Once again,thanks for your help:’(

    • gabi 31. Jan, 2011 at 8:39 am #

      Nats your gunna make the best mummy (can you adopt me?!)!!!!! and im here to help you :) ooo i cant wait to see the bubbah!

      oh an i love pink, she got me through rehab, i adore her always have always will love her!!! was ridiculed for it but i dont care!

      • Nats 26. Feb, 2011 at 11:06 am #

        THanks Gabi!!!! I will totally adopt you hun but I think you are too old to be adopted now?? lol xxx

    • Kendra 03. Feb, 2011 at 2:53 pm #

      Thanks for showing that there are people who care.

      PS – Always loved Pink.

  7. .C. 13. Feb, 2011 at 11:48 pm #

    I really don’t like this video. I think that it is more about the shock than sending a real, good message. People are going to watch it because it shows a girl cutting. A lot of those people are going to use it as a trigger. The rest of them are just going to indulge in the sensationalism of it. Besides that, the ending is completely trite. The girl is sitting in the bathtub, dying, and she just magically decides to get better, and that works fine, and it works immediately. This video is not about raising awareness, and if Pink did have good intentions in making it, she completely missed the mark. It’s like Rihanna and Eminem’s Love the Way you Lie video – Rihanna suffered from domestic abuse, but the video didn’t really raise awareness about that problem in a positive way. It just glamorized it, as Pink’s video glamorizes cutting. This is the wrong message. On the surface, it looks good, but it’s not a good thing.

    .C.

    • Anonymous 18. Feb, 2011 at 8:23 pm #

      I like the song, but I am with.C. I feel it glamourizes self destructive behavior the same way Pro Anna sites do. Yes, I know our young people and even older ones engage in behaviors like ed, cutting, drinking, etc. But in this day in age, I think it’s unfair to stigmatize all parents as “clueless.” Some are- some are not. Mine weren’t or they wouldn’t have hauled my ass to ED rehab at 13. Not all parents turn a blind eye. And back in 1988 when I first went into treatment, much less was known about eating disorders than it is now. I am sure there are idiot parents out there- the whole Tuscon incident comes to mind… but don’t target ALL who just did and are doing everything they could/can do to help their child. I’m sure you strive to be the best parent you can be, but you aren’t perfect and neither am I. You don’t acknlowledge the parents who do notice this behavior and try to get their kids help.

  8. Lis 19. Feb, 2011 at 5:53 pm #

    Great post. And bravo to Pink. I’ve always admired her willingness to ruffle feathers and speak her mind. She’s absolutely right…if it opens up a healthy dialogue then it was well worth the controversy. And why are these things controversial anymore, anyways? This is HUMAN SUFFERING and we need to talk about it!

  9. .C. 02. Mar, 2011 at 6:11 pm #

    There is no real place on this blog that’s completely appropriate for this link right now (normally I’d put it on the open forum, but it looks like the spammers have taken that over!) so I’m posting it here – sorry for the not-directly-related comment! Right now the government is deciding whether to cut Planned Parenthood’s funding. This CANNOT happen. So many women and girls – and men and boys, too – need PP for education and help when there is no other place for them to turn for it. It is a huge body image issue – if we cannot take control of our bodies; if we cannot get the knowledge and tools to keep them safe; how can we really have a positive relationship with them? Helping Planned Parenthood is helping our bodies, and respecting them, and therefore is helping and respecting ourselves.

    PLEASE visit this link and sign this open letter to congress. If we get a million people to sign it, hopefully they’ll listen. Tell all of your friends and family members, and help stop this terrible regression away from reproductive rights. Help keep in place an organization that has helped people maintain control over their own bodies for many years. Help us – people, women, everyone.

    visit http://www.IStandWithPlannedParenthood.org right now, please.

    .C

  10. Alexis 13. Mar, 2011 at 7:01 pm #

    It is a good message, i know you’re always looking for good material in the form of songs and such. I figured I’d recommend a song for you, it’s called “Brainwashed by Ultraviolet Sound” if you check out the lyrics you will see why I recommended it!
    I hope you can. :) Keep up the good work MamaV.

  11. Kirsten 07. Mar, 2013 at 6:54 pm #

    I totally agree with everything you said…I would just add that there is still reason for being age-appropriate. Allowing our children to be innocent before seeing a video like this is ok too…especially if cutting and suicide is not yet in their consciousness. Depends on their chronological AND developmental age…

Trackbacks/Pingbacks

  1. Pink’s New Video « Tales of a (Recovering) Disordered Eater - 27. Jan, 2011

    [...] 27, 2011 I don’t have a new post for today but wanted to share MamaVision’s amazing post about Pink’s amazing and timely video “F***in Perfect” (sorry, that’s the [...]

Leave a Reply

Get Adobe Flash player