What do you see when you look in the mirror?
About Face, by Burt and Kline, is a book I stumbled upon a few weeks ago. The forward is written by Bobbi Brown, I woman I never thought much of – until now. I'll admit; I judged Brown. I assumed she was fake, being a makeup artist and all, but her story floored me.
"When I was eighteen, my mother offered to buy me a nose job. I still remember the moment she sat on my bed and told me that she loved me and wanted the best for me. She said a nose job would make me more beautiful," Brown states.
She point blank turned down her mothers offer because she liked what she saw when she looked in the mirror, and this moment laid the foundation for her life work.
My husband is familiar with the book, he has seen me reading it over the past few weeks, so we started discussing it.
"So, what do you see when you look in the mirror?" I asked him.
"Ummm….I usually think I look tired. Black circles…you know" he revealed.
"What else?" I prodded.
"What do you mean what else?" he asked sincerely (he really didn't understand what I meant).
"Do you like what you see?" I said.
"Yeah. Usually." he said.
"That's it?" I asked.
"Pretty much," he said "I guess a book like that written by men would be really boring."
Now understand, my husband is a thinker. I call him the girl in our relationship sometimes because he loves discussing things, issues, thoughts, ideas (he's as writer, didn't I get lucky?). The fact that he didn't really have much to say on this topic really made me think.
Guys generally don't have issues with their looks. They don't obsess. They don't crisis in front of the mirror every morning. They don't spend a fortune on makeup. And they don't change their outfit 10 times before going out. They accept the hand they are dealt and they live their lives.
So we carried on talking about this subject for a minute or two, and then he said-
"Babe, not to change the subject, but can you shave my back?"
Shave his back. I was dieing laughing.
Damn, life is easier as a guy,
P.S. The next post will be my thoughts on what I see when I look in the mirror and I'll be looking forward to hearing your personal story. This is a way harder exercise then I thought it would be….so start pondering how you feel and how you can put it into words.
So here is what I see when I look in the mirror.