Thanks to Mollie for sending me a link to this disturbing video of a 10
year old "woman" performing her choreographed dance routine, including
hip thrusts, booty shaking, and sexy pouting…just like good ole'

Naa…the media doesn't influence behavior, that's just silly.


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33 Responses to Womanizer

  1. narcissa says:

    she has a bright future…as a stripper.

  2. Bela says:

    Hah… She is actually a good dancer – she’s sharp, on beat…. I can’t help it I am a high school dancer.
    I did not dance like that at that age though! Seriously.

  3. KO says:

    I thought it was good, but waay too sex-ed up. Britney’s new MVs are disgraceful.
    Today i was walking down the shopping centre, this 9/10 yr old boy was pointing at a naked manequinn and saying SEXY SEXYY oi oi…i was confused at why he would find it sexy when he hasnt even hit puberty.wait.. does that even matter?

  4. sim'One says:

    i don’t want to be a heretic but i don’t see anything wrong with that dance. i thought it was great. if i were a parent i would be proud of her but i would definitely have a talk with her about the importance of body modesty and self esteem and have a discussion of what britney’s videos represent.
    i know britney makes a lot of people angry and there are a lot of opinions about what children at certain ages ahould and should do and know about. the fact is, there is no good way to control information but you can..and very importantly.. affect how information is processed. and we can do that by Adding NOT subtracting. i say express yourself constantly, effectively, precisely,..and encourage your children to do so as well. watch things together, have critiques, look at art and analyze it together. don’t be afraid of it. this puts you in control instead of the media. and it’s the best way to encourage critical thinking, intellectuality and a sense of community.

  5. sim'One says:

    correction: “what children should and should *not* do” in 2nd pp

  6. Cute Bruiser says:

    I really don’t think the blame rests solely on the media. After all, they are only providing a service that the public has requested in order to turn a profit. A child’s upbringing is the parent’s responsibility. We shouldn’t expect television to babysit for us or to instill morals and ideals into the children of tomorrow.
    That’s our job.

  7. LOLfitness says:

    Seems fine, she’s get exercise, she’s got normal kid clothes on, and she seems to have good confidence. When I was ten I was watching madonna in her pointy bra singing like a virgin. It didn’t cost me my innocence :)

  8. .C. says:

    She is a good dancer, yes… but what is disturbing is that she doesn’t move like a ten year old in that video. I was sort of revolted by it. It was gross. CHILDREN are not to be a part of SEX. I saw a great play the other day at the National Theatre called Gethsemane. In it one of the lead characters says she’s a proponent of children learning about sex… but from each other. I think that sort of comes into play here. What young people learn from others of their age group is different from learning what Brittany Spears is teaching. The fact of the matter is, kids shouldn’t be sexy. That causes a whole slew of problems that are the stuff of nightmares. I worry about what message this video sends about children to others even as I wonder what it indicates about what the girl is thinking.

  9. Jill says:

    Watching the video and reading the comments I feel that A) she has an AMAZING natural talent for dance. I really hope she is nurtured and praised so she doesn’t hit puberty and feel her body is not the right type and tries to distort it, or gets so stale that dance is no longer pleasurable. I also feel that B) it’s weird and disconnecting to watch a child move erotically, but I’m pretty sure that perhaps she knows what those movements mean in theory “sexy” equates to “attractive”/”praise” I doubt she knows what it means in reality.
    What made me cringe the most was the whooping and cheering of adults. They should definitely praise her skill, it’s as I said phenomenal, but they did it when she did the “sexiest” moves… which is disturbing. They had this gleeful tone that revealed so much about where their beliefs are…

  10. kay says:

    hola mama v,
    Watching this dance from a different point of view,( I am a jr. professional ballerina and champion ballroom dancer) i saw a little girl with tremendous talent..albeit yes some of the movements were a little grown, she has talent and the technique to go far in dance.
    I think the adults cheering in the background was a little creepy, i could see if they were saying ” awesome job” or ” nice turn” but they sounded like they were at the swap meat…lol
    I love ya mama v, but i thought this video showed a budding dance talent

  11. James Nelson says:

    I agree the girl does show a tremendous talent for dance, but the problem tends to lie in the fact that our culture has desensitized many of us to the hyper-sexualization forced on the most mundane aspects of our lives. This is compounded if you’re a woman or young girl. You have to ask yourself “to what purpose?” A lot of styles of dance can show abiltiy, but many aspects of that clip are MEANT to be overtly sexual. Maybe I am starting to sound a bit like my folks, but for a 10 year old that’s a bit inappropriate as well as a tad spooky.

  12. Rachel says:

    the fact that the girl was an excellent dancer does not change the fact that the dance itself was highly inappropriate. Saying that she has talent, and therefore that excuses how scary this was is like saying that its ok if a 15 year old becomes a pole dancer because she has a natural talent for it. I get it: Sex sells. But I HATE that women are continually feeding the structure that allows us to be nothing more than ornaments and sex symbols. Men are horny- I get it- if my husband had his way, we’d do nothing but have sex all the time- but I have other interests- and that is part of what he loves about me. I think if I gave him his way all the time, he would (eventually) get bored with it.

  13. Anna says:

    Who would argue that pole-dancing requires talent? It’s manual labor.
    This shouldn’t have been put on the Internet. That’s the real issue. Performed for her friends? Performed in dance class? Absolutely! She’s really gifted.

  14. Michelle says:

    Innocence is being lost at a very young age in the world.
    I’ll just leave it at that.

  15. Olesya says:

    all i see is an incredible dancer…

  16. Michelle says:

    If you were to put this anywhere else, I would still think the same thing.
    This has nothing to do with eating disorders, really, but it has to do with the belittling of our generation. We highly praise celebrities and musicians because they entertain us.
    The president makes $400,000 per year.
    The average actor can spot 1 million dollars in just one movie. Think of all those actors who do one-three movies per year!
    I’m not saying this has anything to do with money, I’m just showing those numbers so you can see just how much the media does effect the consumer. We buy into their little charades, they earn more money than one country lives off of. Then we have little girls like this one who think that that’s what they have to do to get attention in this world. Show off their bodies, dance provocatively, stay thin, etc etc.
    I don’t care if you say the media doesn’t effect you because it does.
    I am finally living my life the way I want, yet the media STILL effects me. Every time I walk into a grocery store, when I go buy clothes, even driving down the highway there are billboards everywhere.
    It’s all around us, it always will be. We can’t change that.
    We can change the aspirations of the younger generation. We can help them make the ‘right’ choices. We can help them to realize that actors and singers aren’t all they are brought off to be. We can show them that they can achieve acceptance without completely buying into that world.
    It’s ok not to wear mini skirts.
    It’s ok to have a ‘little extra on the sides’.
    It’s ok not to want to watch certain movies or read certain books.
    That is the world’s future up there in that video.
    What if she were brought up in a different household? Could she have been the president? Could she have brought peace to the world?
    She still can, but she needs guidance from everyone around her. She needs us to be strong and courageous and to know what’s good and bad so she can learn from our mistakes.
    Don’t you see that the world is in shambles?

  17. Mrs. B. says:

    As the mother of a former gymnast turned cheerleader, Jes was a better dancer than this girl.
    She started in gymnastics and trained in ballet. That was amazing. I loved floor exercises.
    And then came cheerleading. Once Beam became terrifying….and believe me…connecting back tumbling on the beam is terrifying…Jes switched to cheer. ALL the cheer dances look like this one. In fact, I would not be surprised if this girl is performing a dance from a cheer routine in this video. I HATE cheer dance.
    Our gym was predominately a gymnastics program and our gym director was REALLY careful when choreographing our routines to not sexualize the routines. Thank heaven. Some of the stuff we saw at competitions made me want to be ill.
    Michelle, that was a great post. Certainly made me think.
    I am watching Jessica evolve after leaving the cheerleading world. She has become much more interested in developing the inside of her rather than the outside of her. And she is beginning to beat the trap of her eating disorder through her faith, her relationships and her REAL identity as a woman. The crap the media presents us as womanhood is a trap. And most of us seem to stumble in it for awhile, at least.

  18. Jill says:

    ugh… I just went to the actual youtube page and there are so many comments about how overweight she is :(

  19. Are you serious?? I did not see comments on her weight. I will go check it out- what the hell is wrong with people!

  20. twistsis says:

    That girl is a great dancer but she has been taught that dance, she goes to dance classes, I am sure of that fact as no 10yr child would think of moves like that unless she saw someone else doing it, Britney, me or anyone doing it would give her that idea but she has been taught that. I dance similar to her but im 23!!

  21. missA says:

    The video was posted by her cousin. Her cousin is the one who is her dance teacher. She is an extremely talented dancer, but it is disturbing to see someone so young dance so provocatively. I wonder if her parents know that her cousin posted that video.

  22. LaurenZane says:

    There’s too little context for me to have a strong opinion. Sex was certinaly not the first thing that came to mind. a. I thought she was a great dancer. b. Some of the moves reminded me of some west african dances that are certainly not sexualized.
    I do think it’s interesting though that our current cultural climate encourages people to equate arching/shaking/etc. one’s hips to sex.
    And yes, I see many things in my environment to lead me to think that the world is incredibly vulnerable and is in need of nurturance and mending, however this video wasn’t something that added to my perception. The most insightful comment anyone made was when the woman/women? watching were giving feedback and at what points. Maybe it’s just my computer; I heard sounds of approval, like clapping and whistling. And what I believe was pointed out before- what’s most important is how the audience/I assume her mother interprets and projects onto her daughter’s dancing. That is the most important factor to me. As for the song… I mean, I recall many a weekend afternoon making my bed and belting out Boyz II Men. I LOVED their voices and definitely recall singing out to “I’ll make love to you.” I wasn’t aware of what that meant; if I had tried to sing it in the grocery store, my mom would have told me that it was a “private” song and to stick to Liong King tunes when in public.
    I don’t know. I can see why this would upset people but more for what it “could” be, “could” turn into. In itself, I just don’t find this to be a persuasive example of how we as a society are culturally bankrupt.

  23. LaurenZane says:

    Excellent point, missA. I think a young cousin is far less likely to discuss context than a mother or father, which can change the meaning of the dance

  24. anon says:

    Thank you, missA!
    In reading the post itself along with many of the responses to it, I was very much confused and quite astonished on how this video was so quickly equated with sex–no questions asked. It begs the question, who exactly is the product of an “oversexed” society?

  25. anon says:

    Btw, I am particularly bothered by the title of this post, “Womanizer,” to describe the youtube video of a 10 year old girl. Talk about disturbing.

  26. .C. says:

    As for the comment about West African dance above, I think a lot of African dances have to do with sex and fertility. That doesn’t mean that they deal with it in the same way our society does, but I think it’s important to keep in mind that they do incorporate it. Also, what did anyone find about weight comments on her?

  27. LaurenZane says:

    No, absolutely they do. Many of the dances do tell stories related to fertility and sexual expression, and I agree that it is conceptualized differently, though I am not comfortable using the term “sex.” Some of them do relate specifically to sex, but many from my experience relate to gender and femininity.

  28. Raven says:

    I don’t even think that the dance or the sexy moves are the most disturbing about this video. It’s the glance she throws at the camera in the end. Like she was saying “come on, screw me!”
    Seriously, she is only ten. Who the hell taught her to look at someone like that?

  29. Michelle says:

    The title I’m assuming came from the song playing in the background of the video -Britney Spear’s song, ‘Womanizer’

  30. Anonymous says:

    Wow…she’s actually a really good dancer and at her age. Though, yes, some things were a bit too sexualized for a ten year old.
    We do not know her or her family and are thus in no position to judge her or her family. All that is clear from this video and description on youtube is that she is a good dancer and choreographed it herself and her cousin seems to be a choreographer…she also looks very healthy for her age.
    We have no right to judge further without knowing the specifics.

  31. eshoe says:

    So disheartening to see good talent being used for something which will not prove constructive for her life.

  32. Catie says:

    She’s a good dancer so kudos for that but her parents need to spend some time talking to her if they are going to allow their little bird to dance like that.

  33. Angie says:

    She’s got talent.
    The problem is not that she was dancing, or that she was dancing like that, it was that an adult took a video of it and put it on youtube.

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