I want you all to meet a really cool chick.
She stands in her fat pants on the cover of her book, showing her dramatic weight loss of half of herself. Check out her reccomendations if you want to follow in her footsteps and don't miss her video 'How to loose 192 pounds in 7 seconds;"
I had the pleasure to meet Jeanette during a blogger get together in Chicago a month or so back, and what struck me immediately about her is how laid back she was, and how comforting her expression was. Jeanette is one of those people that makes you feel comfortable, because she is so comfortable in her own skin.
What also cracked me up about Jeanette is that she had no intention to write a book, the publisher sought her out (damn, now that is raw talent).
Here's some insight on Jeanette's perspective of the world, now standing 5'9 and weighing her perfect size of 180 pounds;
MV: How are your relationships different now?
JF: I am more willing to engage people, make small talk, and try to make a connection with others than I was when I was fat. I used to feel uncomfortable in my body and didn't want people to see me, so I would avoid interacting with others unnecessarily. I'd avoid eye contact and didn't like talking to salesclerks when I was shopping. Otherwise, my relationships with old friends and family members are basically the same. I was somewhat concerned how my relationship might change with a friend of mine who is still obese, but we are still as close as ever. She's happy for me, even though she wishes she could lose weight too.
MV: So this is what we do to fat people in this country- shame them into hiding. Think about this the next time you socialize with an obese individual, why not go out of your way to let them know they are are not being judged in your presence.
MV: How has your personality changed?
JF: Like I said, I'm more outgoing. I used to be so shy I wondered if I had social anxiety disorder, but those people are afraid to go to the grocery store, which was a problem I obviously never had. As I became successful at losing weight I gained confidence in myself. With that success behind me, I became more willing to imagine myself successful in other things. The confidence I gained through weight loss bled into other areas of my life. I was more assertive when job hunting and imagined writing a book and living on my own.
MV: Why did you change your goal weight from 160 to 180?
I pulled the number 160 out of the air because it ended in a zero and it was at the high end of the BMI recommendations for my height. However, after I had maintained a weight of 180 for about a year, I decided that was the weight I was happiest at, even if it technically made me still overweight by the BMI system. It's the weight my body maintains when I am moderately active and eating well 90% of the time. To lose more weight I would have to make my life more uncomfortable than I'm willing to, either via going hungry or exercising more than I'd like to. I think I look good at 180 and my doctor says I'm in excellent health, so I didn't see any benefit to trying to lose more weight.
MV: Read that twice and absorb it for a moment. I am a huge believer that our bodies have a natural weight gauge, and you will basically stay within a 10 pound range as you maintain a healthy, balanced lifestyle. The key here, I think is that Jeanette realized this, and just decided she was happy with herself, and most importantly blew off the damn BMI chart (FYI- According to the BMI chart, Michael Jordan is fat).
MV: What is the meanest thing anyone ever said to you or about you?
JF: I've gotten 3 or 4 blog comments that were rather harsh and I'd rather not repeat. People will be meaner online than they ever would be in real life because they are anonymous and know they won't be held accountable for their actions. That being said, 99.9% of my blog comments are kind, thoughtful and polite. I have to remind myself that comments aren't about me, they're about the person leaving the comment. Comments are shaped my our own experiences. If someone leaves a mean comment or accuses me of having a negative attribute, it usually reflects an insecurity they have about themselves.
MV: What is the most significant difference between being thin vs fat?
JF: The freedom of mobility is the biggest difference. When I was morbidly obese I became exhausted walking half a mile from a concert to the parking lot. I wasn't able to walk up 3 flights of stairs without pausing on each landing to catch my breath. I barely fit behind the steering wheel of my car, and my seatbelt wouldn't buckle in some of my friends' automobiles. I may have been big, but my world was small. There were serious limitations on where I could go and what I could do. Now I can walk miles with ease, and if I wanted to go kayaking or spelunking, I know I could.
MV: What has not changed about you?
JF: My sense of humor, my personality and my outlook on life have not changed. I've always been a rather positive person, and even at my fattest I thought I was pretty cool That probably makes me sound arrogant, but I don't think there's anything wrong with liking who you are.
MV: Who or what is the most significant influence in your life?
JF: This is a cliched answer, but it's true: my mom. She's helped shape me into the woman I am today and I owe her a lot for not screwing me up She never put me on a diet and never made me feel bad about my weight. She always made me feel loved and let me know I had someplace to come home to.
I sat down today to write about Jeanette, and started doing my homework, checking out her blog more in depth, reading exerpts from her book…..and what do I discover?
She is a frickin' rock star! Not only has she appeared live on CBS and NBC morning shows, with total poise and confidence, but she has beeninterviewed by an amazing list of journalists. It just shows how down to earth Jeanette is that she doesn't say a peep about her accomplishments.
I guess it's true – when you're good, you're good, no need to brag about it.
Enjoy your weekend,