Comments on: Perfection Projection

By: smudgeruk

smudgeruk — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 09:13:16 +0000

Just saw this online, seems to fit with the topic.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2008/sep/03/youngpeople.mentalhealth

By: Jen

Jen — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 03:51:50 +0000

I would also like to point out the often innate interfemale beauty competition that seems underline female relationships. So the disorder and “perfection” is not solely to take the blame but we also have to change the way we frame our feelings towards other women, how we base our security on an aesthetic standard or comfort around each other. It is absolutely ridiculous and all the more insecure to feel threatened or humiliated by a thinner girl.
Girls, we need to re-evaluate the way we see ourselves and others to help each other instead of perpetuating the beauty myth and creating relations where women hate women.

By: Araea

Araea — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 16:57:28 +0000

MamaV:
I too am not able to watch the videos. However, they work on youtube…weird? Also, it seems bizarre that when you keep yourself at that teetering point between emaciation and normal is when people act on that perfection projection. For years, everyone thought I had it so easy because I was ultra thin and I could see the glares, but internally I was an emotional mess. People always assume that if you appear beautiful you must have it all. When usually, it is the opposite.
Ella,
I completely get what you are saying about the space issue. I feel the exact same way, especially around men. Also, I think the band-aid analogy is pretty close to a perfect explanation. Some might not agree though.
I think us ED people, we seek to perfect our bodies because they are tangible and we can manipulate our bodies. Our cognition on the other hand, seems to be the hardest to control and change. Just thoughts, but I must go study for exams.