Comments on: Quote for thought http://mamavision.com/2008/03/21/quote-for-thought/ Body Image, Eating Disorders, Proanorexia Culture Thu, 09 Sep 2010 15:04:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Mrs. B. http://mamavision.com/2008/03/21/quote-for-thought/#comment-7813 Mrs. B. Wed, 26 Mar 2008 20:49:10 +0000 http://mamavision.wordpress.com/?p=1131#comment-7813 Grace, How can someone so YOUNG, sound so ridiculously SMART. That's one of the most frustrating aspects of this disease to me. Why does it always take our smartest and most sensitive women? Grace,
How can someone so YOUNG, sound so ridiculously SMART. That’s one of the most frustrating aspects of this disease to me. Why does it always take our smartest and most sensitive women?

]]> By: Grace http://mamavision.com/2008/03/21/quote-for-thought/#comment-7814 Grace Wed, 26 Mar 2008 19:57:50 +0000 http://mamavision.wordpress.com/?p=1131#comment-7814 My name is Grace, i'm 17, and am dealing with/have dealt with physical, verbal, sexual, and emotional abuse; anorexia; cutting; depression; and being suicidal for years now. I've been coming to this site for a couple months now, but have never got the nerve up to leave a comment till now... First of all - MamaV, i think what you are doing with this site is awesome. You are giving up your time and energy to make a difference to others - there's nothing better than that! As for the quote, i don't like it. I agree with the general idea that most of you are saying, often our life circumstances are not up to us, but how we deal with them and how we let them affect us IS up to us... So what we choose to do is up to us, but we do NOT draw bad circumstances to ourselves. Grace P.S. I am not going to start "pushing religion" on anybody, but i can not leave without saying that if it wasn't for God, i wouldn't be alive today. I would have completely given up a long time ago. And for the record, to me being a Christian isn't "religion" (b/c let me assure you that i have been at a point of being totally burned out by traditional churches where everyone acts so FAKE and tries to force religion on you!!), but it is simply my personal relationship with God. I think X's comment to Mrs. B was very rude! My name is Grace, i’m 17, and am dealing with/have dealt with physical, verbal, sexual, and emotional abuse; anorexia; cutting; depression; and being suicidal for years now. I’ve been coming to this site for a couple months now, but have never got the nerve up to leave a comment till now…

First of all – MamaV, i think what you are doing with this site is awesome. You are giving up your time and energy to make a difference to others – there’s nothing better than that!

As for the quote, i don’t like it. I agree with the general idea that most of you are saying, often our life circumstances are not up to us, but how we deal with them and how we let them affect us IS up to us… So what we choose to do is up to us, but we do NOT draw bad circumstances to ourselves.

Grace

P.S. I am not going to start “pushing religion” on anybody, but i can not leave without saying that if it wasn’t for God, i wouldn’t be alive today. I would have completely given up a long time ago. And for the record, to me being a Christian isn’t “religion” (b/c let me assure you that i have been at a point of being totally burned out by traditional churches where everyone acts so FAKE and tries to force religion on you!!), but it is simply my personal relationship with God. I think X’s comment to Mrs. B was very rude!

]]> By: Leire Balder http://mamavision.com/2008/03/21/quote-for-thought/#comment-7844 Leire Balder Wed, 26 Mar 2008 02:10:30 +0000 http://mamavision.wordpress.com/?p=1131#comment-7844 interesting. Indeed, we can't control the events of our lives, but we can control our reactions to those events. BUT, it's not quite that simple; you are the person you are because of your past choices, your habits, etc. How could the person you were during event "X" have made any decision other then the decision you made? You can play "what if" all day, but in the end it won't get you anywhere; it won't change the past. I can look back on past choices and say "Wow, what a terrible decision" but the effects of that choice in my life are on-going (purging is a good example; it took unusual circumstances the first time, and with each time it gets easier and easier to do). I guess . . . it's important to look at yourself as an on-going, ever changing person, and to allow yourself to be imperfect; not in the past where you have already made mistakes, or in the future where you will probably make more mistakes; as Shelly says, you have to look at your mistakes, learn from them, and then pick things up and keep going. I'm not really sure who I'm saying this to; maybe mostly myself, trying to remind me that I have to let go of this ideal of perfection . . . interesting.

Indeed, we can’t control the events of our lives, but we can control our reactions to those events. BUT, it’s not quite that simple; you are the person you are because of your past choices, your habits, etc. How could the person you were during event “X” have made any decision other then the decision you made? You can play “what if” all day, but in the end it won’t get you anywhere; it won’t change the past. I can look back on past choices and say “Wow, what a terrible decision” but the effects of that choice in my life are on-going (purging is a good example; it took unusual circumstances the first time, and with each time it gets easier and easier to do).

I guess . . . it’s important to look at yourself as an on-going, ever changing person, and to allow yourself to be imperfect; not in the past where you have already made mistakes, or in the future where you will probably make more mistakes; as Shelly says, you have to look at your mistakes, learn from them, and then pick things up and keep going. I’m not really sure who I’m saying this to; maybe mostly myself, trying to remind me that I have to let go of this ideal of perfection . . .

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