I looked forward to posting about the 1 Year Anniversary of the mamaVISION blog. I recorded a warm hearted video, expressed my genuine thanks, only to be whacked upside the head by the the first two individuals who posted. Not exactly the love-fest I envisioned.
Does this bother me? Yes.
Does this hurt my feelings? At times.
You’ve got to be thick skinned to run a blog such as this, wimp out and you’ll be dead in the water. I think we can all learn from this (lord knows I have learned about myself throughout the months of writing here). At moments of frustration, I surely think ‘why the hell do I add this frustration to my life!’
From observing this, I want you girls to evaluate yourself. Could you handle this constant barrage of your opinions, and personality? If the answer is no, let’s start toughening up. This quality will take you far in life, in business, in relationships. Without a core belief in who you are and what you stand for, the world will flatten you- daily.
One can really learn from putting your voice out there for all to comment, criticize (whether constructively or not). I love the Vanessa’s and Josie’s of the world, they are necessary, and they add an element to our debates that would not be thought about if it was not for them taking the time to express themselves. At times, posts say more about the posters rather than me, don’t they?
Free speech- all for it.
Deliberate, random slamming of the blog host – not too keen on this. Why? Because its distracting from the topic.
Point being, let’s try to set a few ground rules:
1) When posting, let’s stick to the topic at hand. Off topic posts distract us all, and I would appreciate this focus.
2) Random rants on me and what a jerk I am should be posted in the aboutMAMA section.
3) Express yourself without this inappropriate language which only serves to distract from the point your are attempting to make.
4) Correcting another person’s grammar is arrogant, and does nothing more than make you look like a snob.
Feel free to suggest other ‘loose’ rules we should put in place.
Final thought to ponder…the next time you are criticized or you are shy about presenting your feelings for fear you will be unpopular, step back. Think about what it means to speak your mind, remember you are developing your character, and you will be better for it.
The time you spend worrying about what others think about you is time being untrue to yourself.