What qualifications does she need to post her own opinion on her own website?

“You have to respect other people. You can’t just rant on about pro ana mothers and pro ana people in general as you like.”

Sure she can. It’s her website. She can do as she pleases here. You came to her, not vice versa.

“If it were on a personal blog where only a few viewers come in then be my guest… But your blog is visited and viewed in HUGE amounts and you KNOW that people that get into your blog do so from searching “ana”, “pro-ana”, “bulimia”, “ed” and so on. You told us yourself a while back. So why on earth would you go and try to humiliate all these pro ana people straight to their faces?! ”

I am GLAD that a huge number of people visit here. MamaV is helping to get the word out that sites that promote eating disorders are often harmful. And again, she pays for the webtime – she can do what she likes. The internet is not a democracy. Suck it up, buttercup.

“I am not pro ana at all, I used to be about two years ago. Of course that turned into hell, trying to get out of it all, but then being forced into bulimia.”

How were you forced into bulimia? Please elaborate.”

I also have ocd. MAJOR ocd. For the last seven years in my life (I’m fifteen in about two months) I have been dealing with ocd. Do you know how much your post hurt me and offended me? An eating disorder is an actual serious mental ILLNESS. You can’t just switch off the disease out of your brain! Ocd is a very serious mental disease as well. You are basically saying that if I have to be a mother i would be selfish of me to continue having ocd. Do you know how wrong your argument is in so many ways? A person can’t just shake off a disease.”

No one has suggested that you just shake off a mental illness. But you do have to take responsibility at some point. I have been there. I know all too well. Do you really want to try to raise a child while you have this problem? Additionally, do you have a clue how offended some of US are when we see posts like “Umm, lykke, I am sooo stoned. I just swallowed an entire bottle of ipecac, and I havent eaten in, lyke, 4 days. Anyone wanna be my fastin buddy?” And then you get the same lame redundant replies like “OMG, I am SOOOO jealous hun!!!!! I wish I could do that but my stupid ‘rents force be to eat. GAH. They hate me!!111!!.”

“It’s basically like saying that a mother with CANCER is selfish, self obsessed and mean. Think about that…”

Only if that mother is posting online about how she smoked an extra pack today and encouraging other cancer patients to join her. That I would object to. It’s a common sense thing.

‘I am still not finished because I think you do great work on this site except the way you write and argue and offend people…”

Duly noted, I am sure.

“I don’t know, it’s just wrong to use your status for something like this… You are just as bad as the pro ana people…”

How so? Why is is so terrible that she doesn’t want to ever read about another of you dying?

“They lead sites saying that fat is disgusting etc etc etc…”

Which is an obvious lie.

“You lead a site saying tha bones and being too thin is ugly, pro ana are mean, selfish and evil… ”

It IS mean, selfish and evil to promote something so very dangerous.

“WHy can’t you just accept peopel the way they are? It’s like you’re on some rampage against thin…”

Why can’t you accept that MamaV, and people like her do not want you to DIE? It isn’t all about you or what you want, you know. I will gladly rampage with her against something that has the power to take YOUR life. Please learn to love yourself. That is the only thing that is going to save you. No one else is going to do it for you.

“What if someone thin is reading your site? That’s the same as someone fat reading a pro ana site. Shame on you.”

Hardly. And just so you have some prespective – I had an eating disorder. I spent 10 years of my life in a deep depression over a bad marriage that I didnt know how to get out of. I didnt eat for days at a time. I could barely function. Hell, I stopped functioning. I have 2 sons. How they suffered then… I will forever be ashamed of that. I was strung out on Dr. prescribed anti-depressants and xanax. I drank a LOT then, to kill the pain. My life was so ugly and I hurt everyone around me. My house was nasty and I barely knew my kids, because all I was capable of doing was sleeping. I wanted to die but was too gutless/exhausted to finish the job.

I knew that I was going to die if I continued that path. I didn’t really want that. Sooo…I kicked the pills and alcohol. That wasn’t pretty at all. Several small seizures landed me in the ER. Evidently you cant self medicate for 10 years and expect to quit cold. Who knew? I filed for divorce and found a better job. It wasnt EASY, but nothing worth having is.

I have a son about to graduate college, and another one graduating high school this year. I almost missed that. I am so proud of them, and I am proud of me for surviving.

I object to what I see on proana sites because I do not want you to experience what I have experienced. If you need support, call a friend. Do not depend on people who will challenge you to continue to starve yourself.

Please survive. Please.