In the last post Be A Troll, I challenged parents to go to Pro Anorexia web sites and surf around.
In the same post, I asked those of you that visit these sites to post your reasons for doing so, along with information on how you do or do not have your parents support.
The results are pathetic.
Over 40 posts, 35+ are from girls with eating disorders. Where the hell are the parents?
The two parents that posted, basically tried to tell me how wrong I am with this blog, and how much harm I am doing by supporting the belief that parents may play a role in eating disorder. One even got so ticked, she stomped her feet and said she’s not coming back.
Ummm, all you have to do is read this damn blog to know that parents do play some sort of role here. Do you think these girls are making up this misery?
Before you get blinded by your anger, let me restate where I stand:
Anorexia, and eating disorders are mental diseases (for the most part).
Restricting food is about control not about looking good (sometimes, but doesn’t explain Thinspiration).
Parents are not the cause of eating disorders (but they can play a part).
Societies obsession with beauty and body image is creating an entirely different sort of eating disorder….this is at the heart of why I am here.
Girls, I am sorry. No wonder why some of you feel no support. No wonder why you surf these sites incessantly. No wonder why you ask me, a non-expert, for help.
What about my parents?
One word – awesome. Both of them. Totally supportive then, now and always. Neither had anything at all to do with my disordered eating.
In fact, my 68 year old father came over today to pick my son up for swimming. He sat down and told me he spent some time trolling pro-anorexia sites and watching thinspiration videos. He said he literally felt sick to his stomach because this is so sad.
It ain’t pretty out here parents, but the longer you stick your head in the damn sand the more I feel alone in this effort.
Crap, I think its time for the mamaV superhero outfit (inside joke for PTC!). Let’s vote on color and style.
Love you all, have a great weekend.