In a prior post, I stated I live by the philosophy, “This is who I am, take it or leave it.”
The response to this statement was positive, but I heard in your voices that you admire this, and wish you could be this way. You can.
I don’t know how I grew to be so strong about this, my parents no doubt instilled it in me, and my grandma’s were some toughy’s, so maybe its genetic. I’d like to believe its not. I would prefer to say you can learn to think like this, its all about believing in yourself.
Here’s a few more for you to ponder:
mamaV quote #2: “The time you spend trying to please others, is time wasted being untrue to yourself.”
I submitted this one for a Starbucks “The Way I see it” coffee cup quote, and my husband thought it sounded too selfish. We debated it and I brought him around my way. The point is, the more you try to please others, the more miserable you will be. Trust me, its like a law of physics (women tend to be the worst at this). We all sit around fretting about what everyone is thinking about us…. do they like us? did they think I was ugly, fat, weird, stupid?
We need to get over it. You’ve got one life on the planet, and you need to live it for yourself and your own well being.
mamaV quote #3 : “I don’t care what others think of me”
I said this to a former boss and he sat me down to discuss it because he didn’t think I could be successful with this mindset. At face value, this seems snippy and self righteous, but at its base it is a road to peace. Seriously, what if you didn’t care what others thought about you? Think of how free you would be.
So why I live by this rule? In business and in life, if I sat around worried about all the people that think I am a bitch, I’d d go home, curl up in the closet and cry. Life is not about trying to be everyone’s friend. Someone is always going to dislike you, so accept it and hang with the people that like you….they’ll give you strength.
mamaV thought for the day: “The base of eating disorders seems to be centered around what others think about us.”
I worry only about the following individuals and their feelings about me 1) my husband 2) my children 3) my parents 4) close family members 5) close friends. To these people, my heart is with them always. I would give my life for them. If ever hurt them with words or actions, it is always my first priority, above anything to talk about it and make it right.
So let’s let rest of ’em have fun gossiping away, because they are invisible and miserable. Try it girls, it will feel like a huge boulder has been lifted off your shoulders.
“whatever the mind can conceive, and believe, it will achieve.”